Getting help from others has been really helpful for me, but I can’t expect others to fix all of my issues for me. Sometimes I think I have had that expectation, but there are some things I just have to pull through for myself.
One of the biggest things I have to sort out for myself is getting on top of my own life. No one else can do that for me, that’s something that falls to me.
What does it mean to be “on top” of life? I guess I see it as having a healthy balance between all the obligations and optional things that take up my time. Career, social life, health, volunteering, hobbies.
I need to manage my own time and what I’m doing. It’s not up to others to tell me what to do, I need to make my own decisions about these things. I need to balance thinking about things and getting feedback, with the need to actually get stuff done. I need to carve out time for myself to plan out what is going on in my life and to be clear about what I’m doing each day, week and month. Then I need to follow through and do it.
I need to take responsibility for my own emotions. When I’m feeling a lack of motivation or confidence, that’s something for me to deal with. If things get really desperate, maybe I can seek out a motivational speaker or a life coach? Even then, there needs to be a drive in myself to actually do the things I want to do.
I’ve been in a fairly constant state of fighting to improve myself over the course of my blogs. I think I actually have been getting somewhere with my goals. I’m fitter, I feel like I’m a better thinker, I feel like I manage my time better. There’s been a lot of knock-backs, but I’ve worked through them. I’m in a position where I’m able to take more responsibility for myself and continue the fight to be better than I was yesterday.