Learning to cope: moving out, pending assignments & social life
These last few weeks have been hectic – I have officially left the nest (wow, I finally feel like an adult) and of course during this time I have a million other things going on! But while I sit here writing this blog, I’ve never been happier, and I don’t feel as burnt out as I expected - but this has definitely taken trial and error.
Change is inevitable and something that we should embrace – and it’s important to seek support and take a break when you need it. During this busy time, I’ve coped through reminding myself that it’s okay to take a step back – and have the following advice below.
1. Setting boundaries
Whether its setting boundaries with friends or family – it’s important to communicate that you may not be your ideal self with open availability. A simple text message which explains how times are starting to get busy is important so your loved ones know that you may not have the time for a brunch or a night out!
2. Organise and plan ahead
I had prepared for this busy period about a month in advance to ensure I knew what my weeks were going to look like so I could organise my time appropriately. Although things may not go according to plan and new things could pop up – it helps to have a general idea of key events that will require time!
3. Keep your close friends close
Although setting boundaries are important – it is just as essential to ensure you have a support system when things get overwhelming. My favourite times are heading over to a friend’s house, ordering some UberEats and putting on a movie while we chat! I always leave feeling super happy and grateful for my friendships (shout out to my friends for their endless support)!
3. Remind yourself that you’re only human
I often struggle with this as I become hard on myself if I don’t accomplish what I had expected to during the day. It is important to understand that there’s only so much we can do in one day and that it’s okay to prioritise sleep and hobbies, over a lecture or textbook chapter. And often, if you push yourself too hard it can result in a vicious binge of Netflix to escape from pending responsibilities – which results in even more feelings of unproductiveness (guilty!).
4. Counselling and communicating with course coordinators
The University has a wonderful Counselling Support system who are always available for a chat and to assist you with obtaining assessment extensions. It’s important that if you feel you don’t have the capacity to complete an assessment that you communicate to your course coordinators in advance. I used to refuse to ask for extensions (am I the only one?) despite feeling overwhelmed and stressed but have recently overcome this - it’s not as daunting as you might think!
Life changes are scary, but if you have the right people around you and prepare for the busy times – things can go a lot smoother than you anticipate for. I may be in a different house, have assessments due, work, committee responsibilities and events (hello 21st season) – but I truthfully don’t feel as overwhelmed as I thought I’d be.
Take care of yourselves and remember it’s okay to take a break from assessments and work!