Taking back control

A woman sitting on a boulder staring over mountains and valleys at sunset.

I feel as though I’ve been letting myself get convinced too much.

I’ve been saying yes to too many things I don’t want to do, but feel obligated to in some way or another. I’ve been agreeing to meet up with friends quite often, on the premise that it’s been a long time, celebrating the end of the semester, or because we’re going away for the holidays. Although this isn’t a reflection of how much I love them, it’s a reflection of how little time I’ve been giving to myself. 

I’ve come to realise my passion for my own hobbies diminishes as I become burnt out from doing things that are “shoulds” rather than “wants.” So, follow me on this journey of changing a backwards priorities list. Here are a couple of things I plan to do to feel more in control and prioritise myself.

  1. Trust my gut - I’ve noticed there’s often an intuitive thought or gut feeling when I’m first offered an opportunity that goes ignored. I know my gut feeling doesn’t stem from nothing, it stems from my past experiences and is possibly an insight into my body’s wants. Going forward, I hope to listen to that voice rather than immediately brushing it aside before making a decision for myself.
  2. Abide by my boundaries - It’s one thing to be aware of my boundaries, it’s another to follow through with them. I believe one of the biggest barriers for me when respecting my own boundaries is the worry about other people’s thoughts and feelings. I need to remind myself that prioritising my own feelings is not disrespecting others. Giving myself time to breathe also means more energy to appreciate friends and family.
Tagged in What messes with your head, boundaries, self-care